DOUBLE STANDARD: SLUT SHAMING 

Slut-shaming is a form of social stigma applied to people, mostly females who are perceived to violate traditional expectations for sexual behaviors which includes, women being slut-shamed for violating dress code policies by dressing in perceived sexually provocative ways, having premarital or casual sex, engaging in prostitution or being victim blamed for being raped or otherwise sexually assaulted. It is basically attacking females for violating the accepted codes of sexual conduct laid down by the society for ladies. These attacks come from both men and women, sometimes from people who are more promiscuous than the person being attacked, because these sexual conducts for women folks have already been induced in our subconscious. They therefore have become standards. These standards will seem fair if they were also applicable to men, but they’re not, they are simply Double Standards.

Males do not get shamed for having casual sex, but they somehow have the right to belittle the women they have casual sex with. In fact, in a nonreligious setting, it is seen as normal or even ‘cool’ for men to have a lot of sexual partners, and not for women. Fathers give their sons condoms and don’t care who or how many girls their teenage sons sleep with, but will almost choke if they see their daughters talking to her mates who are opposite sex. If male children are expected to sleep around but female children are supposed to keep themselves, then who are the boys supposed to sleep with? People often give the excuse that ladies are the ones who deal with the aftermath of casual sex, for example, unwanted pregnancy, therefore, females should be the ones to protect themselves from these predators. So instead of holding both genders responsible for their actions, only the woman gets the blame because she is supposed to be ‘responsible’ and morally upright while the man reserves the right to be careless and untamed. What the society fails to understand is that, as long as it continues to support men having promiscuous sex, women will also continue to fornicate, because men won’t sleep with trees. Shaming a woman for having sex or having a high body count makes absolutely no sense, because it only shows how much value the society places on a woman’s sexuality but not on the man’s. It practically squeezes all a woman’s self worth into her vagina, so if a woman is as successful as Oprah Winfrey with a body count to 20, there’s a problem. Such woman is no longer a ‘wife material’. While a man with 50 body count is good to go. This is quite upsetting. If the standard of a low body count has to remain, it shouldn’t remain a double standard.

Making women feel guilty for dressing in a way that seems ‘too exposing’ is another common form of slut shaming women. Females get judged by the cloths they wear because they are women and may provoke or cause a man to sexually harass them or rape them. This idea of asking women to cover their body is often defended with the excuse of avoiding rape or sexual harassment. Which is exactly why women get victim blamed whenever they get raped or sexually harassed, they’ll say ‘your outfit attracted the rapist’, while in the contrary, the male was already a rapist, he rapes not because he was attracted to the lady, but because that’s who he is, a rapist. This habit of making flimsy excuses for men whenever they harass a woman sexually will only encourage them, making them think that they are not the problem, hence, they continue to act like wild animals because they think don’t have to control themselves.

The purpose of this article is to expose double standards because the only thing it does is diminish the worth of females over males. It basically puts expectations down for women and a whole different expectations for men. A person’s sexuality is their personal business, their sexuality does not define who they are. If you’re a female and you do think that the society is unfair for slut shaming women, understand that its your job to rise over that societal norm, own up to your decisions about your body and sexuality. If you think you made mistakes in the past with your sex life for example, accept that mistake and own it. Know that your sexuality doesn’t define you, societal standards don’t define you either. You rise above the societal norm by not hiding your body count because some people think ‘its too high for a lady’, because as soon as you begin to hide it and judge other females by their cloths and sex life, then you’re a part of the toxic society too. If a man doesn’t want to be with you because of the history of your sex life, then he doesn’t want you for who you are. Your dress code and sex life do not define you, neither should the society. Be your own woman.

Thank you for reading. This is only my opinion, be sure to drop yours in the comments section below. 

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